You as the adult, mother, see things much more clearly then your child. We had to endure my kids not being allowed to be in the home if my husband was present for two years. She explained to me that they were just going to slowly get to know each other though church and the girls were only going to be around him during church activities. She came up pregnant at the time of the affair with our 4th child. The church she goes to runs a rehab program so I asked her if he was part of the program.
Feel free to contact me offline if you'd like. I'm afraid of what might happen to my kids if he relapses. Not only shouldn't you respect him, you shouldn't let him anywhere near your daughter. I basically only found out all this stuff last week. Short of killing her, or him, does anyone have any suggestions? Yet again, I am concerned but nothing I can really do. And this man is a criminal who you don't know at all, and it sounds like she barely knows. It's time to take the bull by the horns on this one and set the rules straight with your daughter or who knows what concoction may be developed in your direction.
My Dh and I already had one child when X petitoned for custody! But if like me, from 20+ years ago, everything should be fine. Be assured you will always be respected becasue that is something that is in short supply when you live with and love an ex-con. I have been documenting the issues, set appointment with a lawyer, and working towards getting my house ready. He's still incarcerated and will be released in 12 months. The rest of the stuff either came from his public criminal record or was stuff that I had been told by M or other people throughout various conversations: V has been out of jail less than six months on charges related to meth. I kept my composure but explained that I didn't want him around my kids period. Is it possible to lose my son over this? I am sorry that I did not see this a lot sooner.
With all the lies M has told me I've decided to focus solely on the kids. Shortly after our last daughter was born we now have 4 all mine and her's I couldn't take it anymore and left. I am married to a felon with a long and sundry record of assualts. Mostly because we all know it isn't really the way the X paints it, but nobody will do anything different because they are all about protecting thier own interests. The issue of your relationship with your daughter is probably more difficult for you to manage.
V has been coming over to the house and hanging out with M and the kids, having supper, etc. I'm engaged to marry a convicted felon with a 2nd degree murder charge. I looked over and there he was, just sitting there. Just hope it doesn't come down to that. I just saw it now and have to respond. We stepped outside and away from the house so the kids couldn't here and started voicing my concerns.
I have never had any legal invlovement, I am a nurse, hold child abuse and criminal clearances and a certified parent educator. M said that she didn't know much about him but was getting to know him through the church. If you didn't have a lawyer the first time, get one now. He made the decision to fight rather than run and he made the decision to use the knife handed to him. Does your husband know now that his 5 year old child is in regular communication with an incarcerated felon? The guy really has an ax to grind.
You should respect your daughter's boyfriend. Your fiancee stabbed a man to death in a drunken rage. The question is what can I do? His crimes were when he was younger he is not in prison now, nor has he been in quite a while. We had to go thru a total of four psychological evals. The X has been bitter about the divorce. I'm not saying to not marry the guy.
How do I handle life changing relationships? If it is between my son and my fiance. No he has no right to say whom you marry. If that's the case, you're likely to hear more disparaging remarks from the judge than you are to hear from your ex. I can't believe she would allow a man like that around her children. I wasn't really happy about this but there wasn't much I could do and I was satisfied that he wasn't going to be around the girls. I don't want to go too far into it because it's a really long story filled with bullshit but basically I stayed with her through the pregnancy to help out because I just thought it seemed like the right thing to do. Hello, I am new here and looking for help.